In a previous post, I explored how a coach could help you. However, a coach isn’t right for everyone. I wouldn’t recommend hiring a coach under the following scenarios.
1 You don’t believe you need any help
Sometimes, people are offered coaching support by their organisation. However, you may feel happy with your progress or feel you’ve already got a good support system. A coach’s role is to, listen, ask questions and offer ways forward. If you're not open to receiving further help or already feel in control, working with a coach may not be useful.
2 You’re not prepared to put the work in
Like everything else in life, the more effort you put into coaching, the more you'll get out of it. All of us are busy. But if you regularly cancel sessions or don't pay attention during the session then you won't benefit. Plus, there's often work that needs to be done between sessions. It's like doing your homework or revising. If you're unwilling to put in the time, then you won't succeed.
3 You don’t trust the coach
A great coaching relationship is based on trust. A coach should have a clear code of ethics and respect the confidentiality of the coachee. They should be trained professionals with the knowledge and expertise to support you. There needs to be rapport. A coachee needs to feel that the coach is a credible partner and be willing to discuss their real issues. If the coachee puts up barriers or is not completely honest, the work will not be as beneficial as it could be.
4 You expect the coach to have all the answers
A coach's job is to help you find answers to your problems and encourage you to make the changes you want. While you can ask for the coach's advice and input, it’s up to you to find the answers yourself. If you expect the coach to tell you what to do or make decisions on your behalf, then it’s not a true coaching relationship. The coachee must take on this responsibility.
Summary
Coaching can be a valuable tool for personal and professional development, but the circumstances have to be right. It’s quite a commitment, so you have to feel ready for it. If you feel happy and in control of your life, then you won’t see the full benefit. You need to recognise that you have room for growth and that external support can help you. Choose your coach carefully as trust is essential. You need to believe that the coach has the expertise to help you. At the same time, understand that the answers, ultimately will come from within you.